Sunday, December 27, 2015

Reality of working from home

I have a serious love\hate relationship with my new job.

I love writing. I live it. All the stories that live in my head can come up and I can share them with other people. I love working from home. It gives me a flexible schedule that allows for me to be available when problems come up. I moved back east to be closer to my parents who needed help so that is very important to me.

But at the same time those things also bug me a little. I am a workaholic. I am very driven and goal oriented. I hate having to stop work to deal with other things, and that happens a lot when you work from home. It happens even more often when you don't have a dedicated work office. Family and friends don't seem to understand that I work at least eight hours a day, usually longer. So they think I am available to do things all the time.

They don't get that for every hour I spend doing something for, or with, them I will be working into the night to make it up.
I love my job. I love my family. I hate having to choose between my father's health and my work success. Inevitably I choose less sleep. But that also means less quality time with my husband.

Then people ask, "Why are you tired? You don't work "

Sunday, December 20, 2015

Adventures in candy

No, not that Candy. Real candy. The sweet gooey, crunchy, creamy holiday candy tyat holidays are made for. Every year around this time I invite friends and family over and we make candy together. This year was a doozy. My best friend fell and couldn't make it, her daughter was sick and also couldn't make it. That left me and the three kids, my niece and nephews. And we made a glorious, delicious, sticky mess. The dog was very appreciative of all the stuff on the floor but pouted when I wouldn't let her eat the chocolate fudge that was spilled.
Together we made Grandma's sugar cookies, a family tradition. Then we decorated those a bit with buttercream frosting. The chocolate fudge lost too much in the spill and I don't think it will ever set up properly. I told the kids to eat it was a spoon when they got home. Chocolate covered cherries that were immediately demolished. Peppermint bark that my niece had a wonderful time breaking apart. I sent the kids home with tins full of the goodies they had made. My niece decided to add a little something to her tin cover after hearing something on the news. I swear I did not prompt her to do it either.

After that I needed a shower to get all the sugar off of me before heading out with friends to see a Christmas light show that was a lot more fun then I had thought it would be. We even got to see a camel!That was unexpected. We got home late but I still had some holiday baking to get done. I made seven loaves of banana bread for my friends. I had already made pumpkin bread and handed that out. Now the loaves are done and wrapped to be passed out tomorrow along with the candy and cookies that were left over from today.

This is the real reason I love this time of year. 

Saturday, December 19, 2015

Not easy

Ok this is hard for me. I have always played my online life fairly low key. I never use my real name. I rarely even use my real birthday. I never hand out personal information. I don't state my gender on message boards or forums if I can help it. I don't even allow friends to tag me in posts with locations.

A lot of it has to do with my on again\off again stalker ex. A lot of it has to do with sexual harassment online that I would rather not deal with, like most women. But I think it is time for me to come out of my shell, my warm, comforting, protective, gender neutral shell.

This is either going to be massively cathartic or a terrible mistake. There's a chance it will be both. But I am going to take that chance. I am going to start posting real things about the real me.
I am a terrible photographer so don't expect a lot of pics, especially don't expect good ones. The few I have shared my best friend took for me.

So expect a big change to this blog. It will no longer just be about my work and writing. It will be me bragging about my husband (he got a promotion I am so proud of him!) and about my best friend Khrys who is an amazing woman. And about my cooking adventures and random crazy days with my niece and nephews. I hope I don't regret this, but only time will tell for sure.

Friday, December 18, 2015

Juicy Bits

Just in time for the holidays I put out a collection of some of the juicy bits from eleven of my books. These aren't all the fun parts from each book just enough to keep you warm, and busy, over the holidays. My friends tell me to warn people "read with a partner or make sure you at least have enough batteries on hand". I hope you enjoy yourself with this collection of stories.

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